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Parents, Pandemics and Patience

6/24/2020

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A comment I heard this morning, regarding an attempt to have a child behave, triggered a piece of logic in the far reaches of my mind.

Because we are all human, it is possible that at one time or another, especially in these many days of pandemic angst, voices may have been raised. There are times when, at wit’s end, other options have been exhausted and this seems the last resort. Thinking “Sticks and stones can break my bones but words can never hurt me” may seem the lesser of two evils. However, science shows that when the brain is under stress or feels threatened in any way, it shuts down or works less well. There are 3 primary responses
fight, flight or freeze.
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Going to the animal kingdom we can look to many big or small animals that are rather placid until threatened.  (Think bees, butterflies, deer in the headlights!) It makes sense that losing our cool when dealing with children may result in a similar response as it does when encountering an animal that feels threatened. Who hasn’t felt the sting of harsh words (i.e. I hate you. You are the worst mom/dad in the world) or run around trying to catch a child who's trying to escape your clutches and the need to mind, or looked soulfully into the eyes of a child frozen in time not knowing how to respond? Their brain has shut down. They cannot express their feelings or answer a simple question or look towards a solution.

The brain is complex. The smart part, (the prefrontal cortex or the “owl” in Sarah Joseph’s book. “The Animals in My Brain”), doesn’t fully develop until humans reach their mid 20s. To the inability to think things through each and every time, add loud voices, threats or other punitive promises, and you have a scenario that doesn't help the 5 year old make good choices. As much as that is the intent, it can fall short.

As a parent, grandparent and mentor to many, I simply suggest that when trying to teach a child to be safe, kind and responsible, think of how an animal would react if it felt threatened in any way. Then act or speak accordingly.

Especially in these times when stress is running high, when as a parent there is more to do in a given day than there already had been, a little cooperation would go a long way. To reach that level sooner rather than later would be really helpful. I know. I get it!

Mindful moments throughout the day sound like just one more thing to do but really they set the tone for being aware. Being aware of our feelings, kid's big emotions, moments of stress and a time to step back, breathe and proceed with caution and care for yourself and those around you.
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When we listen mindfully, speak mindfully and act mindfully a rough patch might just seem a bit smoother. And how, you might ask, do we do all this mindfully? Just be aware, pay attention, be present.

                              Breathe

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    In 2020, it is almost 20 years since, the Children's Garden began bringing yoga to children and their families. Jennifer and Barb (Yoga Barb) Westgate, were the first 2 in Ontario and the 4th and 5th in Canada to be certified children's yoga facilitators, through YogaKids. Since that time they have both studied under many other renown experts in the field of children's yoga, health and well-being. Jennifer, a speech and language pathologist, a certified reflexology and Reiki practitioner and a student of Sonia Sumar (Yoga for the Special Child), brings a well rounded experience to all children, but especially to those with different abilities. Yoga Barb offers Metamorphosis, Reiki and Emotional Support through her private yoga programmes and during group classes upon request. Her background in behavioural sciences, mother, child care provider, certified parent educator, and now "Gran" to 4, have enhanced her natural ability to provide a nurturing environment to all who seek her guidance.

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